Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm sick of my husband controlling stuff when it comes to me and my happiness. But he never deprives himself of anything, not even other women. We've been together for seven years and married for four years. He paid off all three of my major credit cards, and we got a credit card together that we plan to use for trips and major purchases.
He has been ordering limited edition Jordan's on the card whenever he wants to, but if I use the card to order my hair, which is just as important, if not more important, than the latest shoes. He tries to justify everything if it's something he wants. He always compares me to women on TV and pictures on social media. He thinks he's being helpful if he tells me that I should visit a popular dermatologist that he saw on social media. If I ask him what's wrong with my face, he says that he didn't mean any harm.
One day, I decided to pay him back, and I pointed out a man that had a big bulge in the front of his khakis. I told my husband he should ask the guy what kind of pants he was wearing, because they fit him very nicely. My husband said that I was implying that he was a small man down there and his feelings were so hurt. He can't take it when I treat him as bad as he treats me.
I've found screenshots of other women saved on his phone, and he talks to his female friends in my presence, although we had agreed that we shouldn't talk to our old friends of the opposite sex. He does so many other things that prove that our marriage is one sided. He said, he's the king, but this queen has had enough.
Why is my husband so comfortable doing what he wants to do?